Who Is In Control Of Your Life?

I've been asked the question Who are you? I attempted to answer the question several times and each time I was told that I was answering the question the wrong way. Of course I answered with my name the first time and was told that I wasn't being asked my name. I then gave characteristics of myself and of course that's not what they wanted either. They didn't want to know who my parents are, they weren't asking how I made money/what I do for a living. It seemed like they really didn't want to know anything at all. I thought it was a trick question so I asked, "Is this a trick question?" Of course I was told no. The question was who are you? After thinking long and hard and becoming frustrated I finally just said Poetic Relief and walked away. The funny thing is that they had no idea what I was talking about. They knew it meant something to me but they weren't really sure what it meant. They came after me and at that moment I knew that I possibly answered the question properly but I was so frustrated (which at the time I was mistaking my passion for frustration) that I no longer wanted to talk. I was among people who knew who they were. I thought I knew who I was and it was not easy for me to be told and embrace that I didn't really know who I was. I was young but I knew me better than anyone. The problem was that yes I knew who I was but I wasn't in charge of my life enough to know it. So I pose a question to you. I don't want to know who you are because that's a hard question to answer and a hard pill to swallow when you don't know how to answer it. What I would like to ask is who is in charge of your life? Well of course for most of us we work for about 8 or so hours out of the day, we answer to someone. Does that mean for that period of time we are not in control? No, I don't think that's the case. At least not for some of us. We generally use that job to fund our lives and make of it what we want. This still makes us in charge of our lives. It still means that life is what you make it. If you live a life that is not befitting of you then 9 times out of 10 its because you made it that way. And no I'm not talking about the hungry children around the world or anyone else who truly is unable to run their own lives, I'm talking about those of us who are fully capable of making decisions. Those of us who can no longer make the excuse that we don't know how or we can't. Again I ask Who is in control of your life?

Language is Just a word!

With their being so many other ways to communicate than through talking I am forced to believe that language is just a word. Listen carefully when one speaks their native tongue and pretty soon it all just makes sense and you don’t even know the language. Listening to it long enough one may even believe that it’s beginning to sound like English. No. That’s not what it is. The truth is that you allowed your mind to expand further than you intended for it to, You exposed a taste of your true intelligence to yourself and maybe even others. There are other ways of communicating. Body language, facial expression, tone and other universal “languages”. Personally I am shy but secretly obsessed with the art of communication. It started back in Middle School. This Hispanic kid came into my class and sat next to me and didn’t speak a lick of English. The only thing I knew in Spanish was how to ask him his name which turned out to be rather helpful. Anyway after telling me his name he decided to talk to me during our free time at the end of class. I had no idea what he was saying but I listened anyway knowing I had to eventually tell him I didn’t speak Spanish. The funny thing about it was I actually started understanding him after realizing that he spoke with his hands and was interactive. I was even able to answer him and help him understand in English. It probably didn’t help him much because it wasn’t an English lesson just a communicating experience. Have you ever danced with someone you don’t know. I mean really dance with them. Not bumping and grinding at the go-go’s or parties. Although you’re communicating with that kind of dance too I wish not to focus on the that topic because I can go all day long on the pro’s and con’s of that. Anyhow back to the matter at hand. Dancing. Take some time out and dance with your partner and think about what you took from it. The communication there is powerful as one allows the other to lead but not falling behind. Have you ever just sat in a room with someone and were completely silent but had a whole conversation because you understood each other beyond intimacy. I can only believe that language is only a word. It’s only a word because there are never enough of them in any language to express one’s feelings as we vigorously attempt to hoping we succeed making up new words for how things seem. Language is just a word

Test yourself before He does (lol)

Sometimes we're tested in the most harsh ways. What do you do? Recently I've been being tested in what I would call extreme ways. I have been so close to reaching my goals only to seemingly have them stretched further away. Obstacles showed up from nowhere and time was not at all on my time with deadlines to be met. This went on for about two weeks. I didn't know what to do. Of course with help from a great person I got through it but it wasn't easy at all. All I could do the whole time was pray and cry, or as I like to call it, send up liquid prayers. In the end everything turned out to be better than I could have ever imagined. I truly believe that the greater the test, the greater the reward. God definitely smiled upon me this week, after reminding me of some very important, possibly forgotten things, among those being that He will not give you more than you can handle. Remember your strength.  often forget their strength. They forget that they can handle a lot more than they're used to. You have to challenge yourself to get to the next step. Yes send your prayers up but you have to help him help you because if you don't your tests become greater and greater. Especially if you expect Him to do it all on His own. Yes, lessons will be learned but the reward will be well worth it.

Be Careful...

Have you ever been in a relationship where you started off strong? I mean you started of at a really high point in your relationship and you felt that you would float on forever more together. It sounds good and I'm sure it felt amazing in the moment but, in actuality if you don't allow your relationship to grow to new heights, instead of jumping head first into something in the heat of the moment, then you're either settling in your situation or you're wondering how in the hell you ended up where you are now. Probably trying to figure out how to get rid of him/her. What should have been a short whirlwind romance, or even a one night stand, has turned into something that you saw coming from the very beginning. The only problem is that it isn't what you want. The love has faded for at least one of you and comfort has taken its place settling in quite nicely. As long as he/she doesn't ask you how you feel everything will be fine because neither of you will lie. Chances are, neither of you will ask the other that question anyway. How did you get to this point and how did you get too comfortable to leave an unhappy situation. Chances are that it would have been better for the both of you anyway. Fellas it is not okay to turn the girl that you only should have screwed into your woman. It just gives you an extra headache. Ladies don't be upset at that comment it's true. Even for us. Don't turn the guy that you only should have slept with into your man because it gives you extra work and headaches which we don't need. Better yet stop putting yourself into these I didn't mean to fall in love we were only supposed to sleep together situations. The last time I should have only slept with a man has never been a situation in my life. There was a time when I met a guy while in an uncomfortable situation with my friend. I wondered off with him and we rode around and talked well into the next day. We said goodnight when the sun came up as he dropped me off at my door and we parted ways. Where most people would have turned that into a story ending with sexual satisfaction we didn't. We both simply needed something that we didn't have. He needed somebody to talk to who had an unbiased opinion. I needed someone to talk to me. Someone who needed my opinion. As we provided one another with such pleasure the real intimacy came from the intention. No intention on ever speaking again we got exactly what we wanted. What started out as an extremely disturbing situation turned out to be quite a night. Be careful who you let into your life but be more careful of who you allow to remain in your life. Don't put yourselves in situations that you can't get yourselves out of without adversely affecting yourself or others

When you were a child did you ever think about what things would be like when you grew up? I saw anything and everything to be possible no matter how ridiculously far fetched it sounded to those older than I was.When I was a child I thought a lot about what it would be like to be and adult. I used to think
When I grow up to be big me
Imma explore the world
and all of it's possibilities.
I'll be flying to England to have lunch with the Queen
I'll conquer my dreams
and vacation on the sea.
To you these may sound like the immature thoughts of a child. Dreams that could never come true because they'll forget about it and never follow through. I guess the belief that nothing is impossible for me to achieve is just one that has followed me throughout my life. Because of this I have been able to actually accomplish some of my big idea dreams. And it helps me to strive to take my big ideas a step further. I'm big me now so it's time that I do big things.

Are your priorities in order?

What is the point of a new years resolution? Why make a promise to yourself that you don't intend to keep? If you ever really kept your new years resolution then good for you. I know that you feel a sense of accomplishment when the new year comes because you want to take it a step or two further for the next year and you are looking forward to it without a doubt. The way I see it is, if you intend on keeping a promise to yourself then you never really have to make the promise. its just the matter of whether or not you're going to accomplish your goals. Everyone is always anxious to reveal their new years resolution but if they intended on keeping their promises to themselves they wouldn't reveal them until they were completed because if everyone knows what you're up to then the harder it is going to be to not get distracted. If you really want to do something different or try something new then start small. Especially if you're going to vocalize it. You wouldn't want anyone to think you were incapable of accomplishing minor goals. Some people are so worried about what their "neighbor" is doing that they aren't doing anything themselves. A Nise man once said If it's not about making money then what is it all for? he said "If It's not about making money then I'm not doing it". That should be your motto for 2011. You aren't being paid to hate on the next person so go do something that's going to make you money. Are your priorities in order?

Long Distance Relationships

When you think of long distance relationships plenty of questions come to mind. How young is too young to be in a long distance relationships? Does absence make the heart grow fonder or is it out of sight out of mind? How do you make it work and what do you expect to come of it? All of these questions and more come to mind when thinking on the subject. When thinking of having a long distance relationship most people turn their noses up to the idea. Automatically the thought is that having a relationship is hard enough when you see one another on the regular basis so it's out of the question to have one with a person that you can't see. Phone calls just aren't enough. But there are other ways of looking at it I think. There are other factors in the relationship that keep you together and I'm sure no one would go through a relationship without some sort of communication/visitation plans especially with the technology that we have now. It's not as hard as it once was I'm sure. We have several different instant messaging tools, phones have advanced and of course there's Skype. If you want to see one another then you're a car/plane/bus/train ride away so if it's real and you hope that something will come of it then all hope really isn't lost. There are a scarce amount of relationships that start out with long distance status. And if they do then most of the time it's a teenage romance that is very short lived (much like my own short lived long distance romance as a teenager). My view is that love is what it is and you can only control it to a certain extent. I understand how they come about and that sometimes they work out but the question I want the answer to How does it work out? I'm sure everyone has their secret to success!!!

What Do You Want From Me

Accomplishing your goals takes hard work, dedication, and commitment. Often times it occupies the majority of your time, especially if you’re following your dream. Of course you don’t want to but you have to set people aside and even cut people off if they don’t agree with what you’re trying to accomplish because they will only try to prohibit you from forward movement. Everything you have goes into this dream because you refuse to fail. All of your time, energy, and focus is on whatever it is you’re aspiring to do. Downtime? Yeah right! Time with your friends? That has to wait. Extracurricular activities consist of devising a plan to succeed. If you’re serious you work around the clock to achieve your dreams. And if you’re anything like me then your thought process is that you’re going to enjoy reaping the benefits of all of your hard work. There are people who don’t understand this concept and feel as though they should be put first and my question is what do you want from me? What do you think I can do for you right now? I’m focusing on what’s important in my life and if you aren’t on board then you gets none of this focus so please know that it’s time to throw your deuces up!

It's Art People

It’s Art People

The world is our canvas so stop hating on the next mans painting and start painting your own. Paintings, photographs, instruments, drawings, writing, dance, martial arts They’re all obvious art forms. But what about hair? Make-up? Fashion? This too is art.

It is a form of self expression. It takes knowledge and skill to achieve a look that no one else has thought of yet.

Art- any system of rules and traditional methods for the practice of a craft, trade or profession: the application of knowledge and skill (2) works designed to give intellectual pleasure as, music, sculpture, and esp. pictorial representation (3) skillful workmanship.

Artists- a performer in an art of entertainment

Are you not entertained? Of course you are because if you weren’t you would no longer pay attention. Why is it that people always hate on one another? When a new artists comes out people always expect them to fail or for them to be wack. Why? It isn’t as hard to support someone as it is to hate. It’s so much less effort in supporting others successes or keeping your mouth shut. The world is our canvas. Take advantage of it. Whether you cover it with words, music, fabric or colors make it yours. And when you see the next mans canvas don’t hate because you wont have to.

Inner Workings of the Artistic Mind (Writer's Edition)

Inner Workings Of the Artistic Mind

Many people have asked me to describe the inner workings of the artistic mind. I can’t speak for anyone else but I’m all over the place all of the time. I think that most people who like to write like to talk as well. I could be wrong but I don’t think I am. I’m different from them in that I don’t talk much. People ask me why and my answer is simple.  I don’t like the idea of wasting words.  Also I am very observant and I think a lot. Not only do I write because it’s what I love to do but I also write so that I can continue thinking without forgetting my thoughts. This helps so that they aren’t competing for my attention. There are times when I have a sound mind allowing me to appreciate my surroundings and time. I love times like this because it allows me to prepare for what’s to come next. It allows me to stop worrying if the time will come that this is no longer fun for me. It’s a time to let my pen run freely. Times like that only come on two occasions. It comes as the quiet before the storm or after the chaos has already come and gone. Sometimes my mind works so fast that I can only hope to keep up with it. It frustrates me when it happens sometimes because when it happens it’s at the most inopportune time. Like when I just think of something that I know is going to be amazing when I’m done. I forget what may come next because I’m trying to keep up with myself. My thoughts are rude to one another often interrupting one another fighting to keep my attention and to get their points across.

As is stated before I can’t really explain the inner workings of the artistic mind because the result that comes from the thoughts should be enough.

She Can't Strut In My Pumps

She's tall and thin with long pretty hair

and her head is full of nothing but air

She can't strut in my pumps.

She has a gorgeous smile and a real nice smile

and she does exercise... her mouth

running it for miles and miles

She can't strut in my pumps.

She has fair skin and captivating eyes

ones so transparent 

you can see past her innocent disguise

She can't strut in my pumps

She has an embrace that gives you a taste of comfort

and a kiss that gives you butterflies

and when she speaks she gives you...no incite

She can't strut in my pumps.

I'm short, petit, and I have a look that I own

I attract you with my benevolence and

Intrigue you with my intelligence.

She can't strut in my pumps.

Whether I'm in sneakers or stilettos 

you cant take your eyes off of me

and you can look into my eyes to get a story.

She can't strut in my pumps

The natural hollow on each side of my face 

form when I smile and it drives you wild. 

And you can't function properly without my witty style. 

She cant' strut in my pumps.

When we hold hands a warmth runs through your soul

and when we part you clench your fist to keep the feeling

of my hand in your hold

She can't strut in my pumps.

You like my devotion to my craft and the authenticity that I embody

Capturing your attention, making you want to know more of me.

She can't strut in my pumps. 

I have an embrace that is the epitome of ease

 and a kiss that makes you weak in the knees.

Aren't these the things that you want?

If so

She most definitely can't strut in my pumps.

If You Don't Have Time...Don't Get In A Relationship

If You Don't Have Time... Don't Do It!

If you don't talk to her she'll find someone who will tell her she's gorgeous every day and stimulate her mind in unpredictable ways.
If you don't spend time with her she'll get her attention from elsewhere. From someone who's interested because you don't seem to care. You aren't there
If you don't take her on dates someone else will show her a good time. And show her what they have to offer as a mate.
If you don't want to share with her she won't share with you. Too afraid to do for you the things, for her, you do not do.
But gentlemen you already knew this. You know the rules of the game. They will always be around and they will always be the same....

Sorry I've been interrupted by a disturbing phone call on this very topic. What a coincidence. People before you get into relationships you need to know what you're looking for. Why are you with someone that you always complain about. If you can't think of anything good about the person you're with or about your relationship then YOU DON'T NEED TO BE IN IT! Duh! That makes you free to do whatever and whom ever you want to without disrespecting anyone. Also you aren't making any situations worse and any upset parties will get over their temporary anguish.
OOOOOKKKKK LADIES let's be clear. THAT DOES NOT TAKE YOU OFF THE HOOK SO YOU MIGHT AS WELL CLIMB RIGHT BACK BACK ON!!! You commit the same selfish offenses. And if you don't then you are the reason that your man would rather be doing something or someone else. Why did you stop living your separate life for him? He didn't do it for you? Why did you stop hanging with your girls? Did he stop hanging with his boys? And why are you expecting him to take care of you? Can he take care of himself? And on top of that did he ask you to do any of these things? Uh No! You want to know why? The answer is simple. No man wants a woman with no business. If you had some when he met you then you need to keep it while you're together. If you're always together then what do you have to talk about? And finally LADIES AND GENTLEMEN it is extremely unfair to hold anyone completely responsible for your happiness. You were happy before you met so continue with it. Don't put all of the weight on the shoulders of your significant others because no one wants that type of responsibility. We barely know what makes us happy at times and you want them to make you happy all of the time? uh no!

A Taste of Perfection

A Taste of Perfection

I am mesmerized by the architectural perfection of a being who sits next to me.
He's tantalizing
He's mesmerizing
I adore him
For now
in my mind
He's mine.
I am amazed by the structure of his being
I would love to explore further
the sights that I'm seeing.
My senses run wild
at the thought of what you could expose them to
and my mouth can't stop watering
from imagining you

Starting is the hard part...

Just a thought

Starting is the Hard Part


To conquer your dreams you must follow them. Sometimes that means setting some things and even some people aside. Sometimes it's not hard because it may not be that important to us and can easily be left behind. Other times it's not that simple and that's when following your dreams become difficult. A lot of people don't understand but there's a few who do understand that this is something you have to do for you. Those who don't understand will try to hold you back but they don't mean you any harm so don't bite back. They just want to protect you from all of the people with the same dream as yours and any rejection and slammed doors. The ones who do understand that there is a MASTER plan will encourage you to go forth and offer you a hand. When we leave them we expect for them to be there upon our return, sometimes forgetting that they have their own lives to live and their own lessons to learn. Now your journey has begun but you no longer see the light from the sun. You have yet to earn it. Getting deeper and deeper into your craft you must really learn it. Study the best of the best and then hope your work isn't collecting dust on someone's desk. Prepare to be told no and to have doors slammed in your face. Also for loyal fans and knowing you're still in the race. Everything you want to happen will occur at once but only i slow motion so you can experience your life right instead of sailing by as if you were on the ocean. It'll give you time to make every small thing a significant memory ad the opportunity to be just who you are so that everyone knows near and far.

So This is What IT Feels Like

This is something I started the other day. I haven't finished it yet but this is what I have so far. Please don't be afraid to tell me what you think.

So This is what IT Feels Like

Every time I see you I get butterflies.
And I can't do anything else but stare into your eyes.
I smile then turn as you notice me blushing
And my heart drops to my stomach
and my hormones begin rushing.
We are then surrounded by a glow
One that takes us
to a place that only we know.
Back to our past
As we wish we were one again
Back to a time where
things were more simple then.
I'm always nervous at first then you do something that reminds me
That you're still you.
And in essence
That's who you'll remain
through and through.
I fall into your sanctuary of comfort and joy
finding it hard not to accept
the very love that i was trying to avoid.
Offering me what seems like the world in my hands
makes me feel like I'm in a middle of a fairytale
or a novel filled with sweet romance.

Snippet of my work1

This is just a little something I'm working on. Let me know what you think so far please. It's just a few parts of a poem that's been in the works for a while now.

... my heart races against time and butterflies, they fill my insides. I go deaf but i can hear the language of your body almost allowing it to serenade me into a daydream...

... as you look into my eyes they are telling you my thoughts and displaying my desires, preventing us from denying this inextinguishable fire

.... pulling me in closer to inject me with the kiss of the eclipse as the sun and moon slow dance, displaying an undeniably sweet romance...

Imagination

I hear a lot of people saying that their imagination sucks. I say that your imagination is where your dreams are held. I question if they have dreams and they suck (which isn't at all possible because no dreams suck), or is it that they don't have any dreams at all. For me my imagination is everything. It takes me forth to the things that I wish to accomplish. If you don't have an imagination or dreams then you're just living life. Allowing life to happen whether it be in a way that you like it or not. As for me, I have been given free will for a reason. Yes there is an inevitable end result for me but the way I choose to get there is by taking the course into my own hands and reaping the benefits thereof instead of settling for less and still achieving my dreams. Wow I just thought of something else. Why would one have to use their imagination if they don't want anything, or if they don't want anything more. My imagination is so big because i want to leave an undeniably unforgettable Poetic Relief Legacy.

What becomes of harmless childhood games

Remember the age old game of cat and mouse. We started out watching it on television. Then we started school and at recess we would chase or be chased or catch or be caught. Yes just a harmless child's game that we played just to have some fun. Just like red light green light, tag and hide and seek. But what we don't realize is that the games we played we still play today. We just play a grown up version now because we have learned what we needed from the previous forms of the game and now we play them and don't acknowledge the name. When we break up only to make up we're only playing tag. Dance contest, don't act like you didn't participate, was practice for the club lol. We learned early what happens when you move on a red light but we call them tickets now. It's funny how growing up we practice playing the game of life until we are actually old enough to live it on our own. The only problem is that with all of the practice and getting life right some of us still can't grasp life and for those of us who can...we live

Don't Ruin It, It was going so well

I understand that people spend time with their significant others early in the day so that they can do what the hell they want to do at night or whenever it is they want to do with the rest of their day. What I don't understand is why must there be an indicator that that's what this shindig is all about? Don't leave clues or hint that you have plans for later because you don't realize that the perfect day you created is now turning sour because you've made him/her feel some kind of way. Sometimes like they were someone to keep you busy until the "real" action happens. Word to the wise...DON'T RUIN IT!!! Let the day go as wonderfully as you intended on it being and when you're ready to go out without him/her later there will be no problems because everyone will have been satisfied. I don't know why so many people have this issue when we should know by now, after all we are adults here, that some things are better left unsaid so keep it moving and again people DON'T RUIN IT!!!

Obama Calls Kanye a 'Jackass' -- The Audio

Obama Calls Kanye a 'Jackass' -- The Audio

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Yeah Kanye apologized but we can only forgive him now that we've had word from Mr. President