Who Is In Control Of Your Life?

I've been asked the question Who are you? I attempted to answer the question several times and each time I was told that I was answering the question the wrong way. Of course I answered with my name the first time and was told that I wasn't being asked my name. I then gave characteristics of myself and of course that's not what they wanted either. They didn't want to know who my parents are, they weren't asking how I made money/what I do for a living. It seemed like they really didn't want to know anything at all. I thought it was a trick question so I asked, "Is this a trick question?" Of course I was told no. The question was who are you? After thinking long and hard and becoming frustrated I finally just said Poetic Relief and walked away. The funny thing is that they had no idea what I was talking about. They knew it meant something to me but they weren't really sure what it meant. They came after me and at that moment I knew that I possibly answered the question properly but I was so frustrated (which at the time I was mistaking my passion for frustration) that I no longer wanted to talk. I was among people who knew who they were. I thought I knew who I was and it was not easy for me to be told and embrace that I didn't really know who I was. I was young but I knew me better than anyone. The problem was that yes I knew who I was but I wasn't in charge of my life enough to know it. So I pose a question to you. I don't want to know who you are because that's a hard question to answer and a hard pill to swallow when you don't know how to answer it. What I would like to ask is who is in charge of your life? Well of course for most of us we work for about 8 or so hours out of the day, we answer to someone. Does that mean for that period of time we are not in control? No, I don't think that's the case. At least not for some of us. We generally use that job to fund our lives and make of it what we want. This still makes us in charge of our lives. It still means that life is what you make it. If you live a life that is not befitting of you then 9 times out of 10 its because you made it that way. And no I'm not talking about the hungry children around the world or anyone else who truly is unable to run their own lives, I'm talking about those of us who are fully capable of making decisions. Those of us who can no longer make the excuse that we don't know how or we can't. Again I ask Who is in control of your life?