Be Careful...

Have you ever been in a relationship where you started off strong? I mean you started of at a really high point in your relationship and you felt that you would float on forever more together. It sounds good and I'm sure it felt amazing in the moment but, in actuality if you don't allow your relationship to grow to new heights, instead of jumping head first into something in the heat of the moment, then you're either settling in your situation or you're wondering how in the hell you ended up where you are now. Probably trying to figure out how to get rid of him/her. What should have been a short whirlwind romance, or even a one night stand, has turned into something that you saw coming from the very beginning. The only problem is that it isn't what you want. The love has faded for at least one of you and comfort has taken its place settling in quite nicely. As long as he/she doesn't ask you how you feel everything will be fine because neither of you will lie. Chances are, neither of you will ask the other that question anyway. How did you get to this point and how did you get too comfortable to leave an unhappy situation. Chances are that it would have been better for the both of you anyway. Fellas it is not okay to turn the girl that you only should have screwed into your woman. It just gives you an extra headache. Ladies don't be upset at that comment it's true. Even for us. Don't turn the guy that you only should have slept with into your man because it gives you extra work and headaches which we don't need. Better yet stop putting yourself into these I didn't mean to fall in love we were only supposed to sleep together situations. The last time I should have only slept with a man has never been a situation in my life. There was a time when I met a guy while in an uncomfortable situation with my friend. I wondered off with him and we rode around and talked well into the next day. We said goodnight when the sun came up as he dropped me off at my door and we parted ways. Where most people would have turned that into a story ending with sexual satisfaction we didn't. We both simply needed something that we didn't have. He needed somebody to talk to who had an unbiased opinion. I needed someone to talk to me. Someone who needed my opinion. As we provided one another with such pleasure the real intimacy came from the intention. No intention on ever speaking again we got exactly what we wanted. What started out as an extremely disturbing situation turned out to be quite a night. Be careful who you let into your life but be more careful of who you allow to remain in your life. Don't put yourselves in situations that you can't get yourselves out of without adversely affecting yourself or others

When you were a child did you ever think about what things would be like when you grew up? I saw anything and everything to be possible no matter how ridiculously far fetched it sounded to those older than I was.When I was a child I thought a lot about what it would be like to be and adult. I used to think
When I grow up to be big me
Imma explore the world
and all of it's possibilities.
I'll be flying to England to have lunch with the Queen
I'll conquer my dreams
and vacation on the sea.
To you these may sound like the immature thoughts of a child. Dreams that could never come true because they'll forget about it and never follow through. I guess the belief that nothing is impossible for me to achieve is just one that has followed me throughout my life. Because of this I have been able to actually accomplish some of my big idea dreams. And it helps me to strive to take my big ideas a step further. I'm big me now so it's time that I do big things.

Are your priorities in order?

What is the point of a new years resolution? Why make a promise to yourself that you don't intend to keep? If you ever really kept your new years resolution then good for you. I know that you feel a sense of accomplishment when the new year comes because you want to take it a step or two further for the next year and you are looking forward to it without a doubt. The way I see it is, if you intend on keeping a promise to yourself then you never really have to make the promise. its just the matter of whether or not you're going to accomplish your goals. Everyone is always anxious to reveal their new years resolution but if they intended on keeping their promises to themselves they wouldn't reveal them until they were completed because if everyone knows what you're up to then the harder it is going to be to not get distracted. If you really want to do something different or try something new then start small. Especially if you're going to vocalize it. You wouldn't want anyone to think you were incapable of accomplishing minor goals. Some people are so worried about what their "neighbor" is doing that they aren't doing anything themselves. A Nise man once said If it's not about making money then what is it all for? he said "If It's not about making money then I'm not doing it". That should be your motto for 2011. You aren't being paid to hate on the next person so go do something that's going to make you money. Are your priorities in order?

Long Distance Relationships

When you think of long distance relationships plenty of questions come to mind. How young is too young to be in a long distance relationships? Does absence make the heart grow fonder or is it out of sight out of mind? How do you make it work and what do you expect to come of it? All of these questions and more come to mind when thinking on the subject. When thinking of having a long distance relationship most people turn their noses up to the idea. Automatically the thought is that having a relationship is hard enough when you see one another on the regular basis so it's out of the question to have one with a person that you can't see. Phone calls just aren't enough. But there are other ways of looking at it I think. There are other factors in the relationship that keep you together and I'm sure no one would go through a relationship without some sort of communication/visitation plans especially with the technology that we have now. It's not as hard as it once was I'm sure. We have several different instant messaging tools, phones have advanced and of course there's Skype. If you want to see one another then you're a car/plane/bus/train ride away so if it's real and you hope that something will come of it then all hope really isn't lost. There are a scarce amount of relationships that start out with long distance status. And if they do then most of the time it's a teenage romance that is very short lived (much like my own short lived long distance romance as a teenager). My view is that love is what it is and you can only control it to a certain extent. I understand how they come about and that sometimes they work out but the question I want the answer to How does it work out? I'm sure everyone has their secret to success!!!